老餅婚姻探討文章 - 3. 一夫多妻

waiking

kingkong_hk 發表於 2012-2-6 13:14
因為要約D麻甩佬出街時親身感受

但我約D麻甩佬出街時矛呢啲感受嘅

oldcake

benny2 發表於 2012-2-4 16:21
女性多了選擇權, 只是幻覺而已.
相對一夫一妻制, 一夫多妻制所給予女性多出的 '選擇權', 只是當 '如意郎 ...

Ching所提出的觀點非常有理, 我花了些時間去思考, 以至晚覆. 我的思考方向及結論如下:
1. 在一夫多妻制下, 結婚女性總人數是否比一夫一妻制多?
我認為"是". 我用演化生物學的角度考慮, 雄性偏向得到較多交配權, 而雌性偏向有找伴侶(雄性)幫助及分担養育責任. 在兩種社會制度比較下,  一夫多妻制結婚女性總人數應較多.
2. 以point 1為前設, 在自願原則下, 可說明總體女性滿意度較高.
3. 我的思考方向在於整個群體, 而很多人會以個體感受先行. 而個體感受偏向'避免損失', 而不是'所得', 我相信是女性反對的主因. 我這篇文章也希望帶出各人於這方面的思考.
4. 同意女性婚後處於競爭中的觀點, 但不影響'選擇權'的多少.

waiking

oldcake 發表於 2012-2-7 11:51
Ching所提出的觀點非常有理, 我花了些時間去思考, 以至晚覆. 我的思考方向及結論如下:
1. 在一夫多妻制下 ...

呢段要多少少時間消化吓

oldcake

煩惱 發表於 2012-2-7 19:16
論交配權又衍生另一個問題... 就係父系／母系社會問題...  

好在中國自古行父系... 如果 5 係...  ...

哈哈，這兩天吧。

lugard

回覆 煩惱 的帖子

唔應該用現時情況project改左一夫多妻後的性格, 可能到時已翻天覆地咁變左呢

lugard

口花花 發表於 2012-2-3 14:25
我覺得一夫多妻其實係一個權力同財力既象徵

你睇下何生就知道,如果香港實行返我諗可以多妻既人都應該只係 ...

我同意係 "權力同財力既象徵", 皇帝後宮佳麗三千就係一例子

pokerusa

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I agree oldcake's opinion. But in my opinion, we still have concern about some factors.
1. In polygyny, marriage women maybe more than monogamy , but it also possible centralize in few men. it will bring more social problems.
2. I believe the populations of men and women are close 50% in the past, but not now. according to the news, populations of men will over women 30~40 millions in China  in 2020. that means man have less choices to find a woman to get marriage in future. in other words, woman already have more choices than man now.
3. yes, I agree woman have more choice. it also give their parents more choices. in Asia, we respect our parents. if parents don't like your choice, that means you have to like the choice by your parents. especially when woman age close to 30 or 35, woman will have lot  pressures from family. Therefore, woman will accept one OK for her. it will becomes we accept the marriage, not satisfy the marriage.
oldcake, it is really tough topic. but it also bring some ideas about the relationship between man and woman to me.

oldcake

pokerusa 發表於 2012-2-8 05:11
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I agree oldcake's opinion. But in my opinion, we still have concern about some  ...

1. 正如前述, 婚姻為社會所需(非為個人)的產品, 在個人主義抬頭的現代, 贊同一夫多妻制會出現較多社會問題. 在個人主義持續高漲的情況下, 值得思考的是未來婚姻的形式.
2. 哈哈....風水可以輪流轉.
3. Ching提及父母在婚姻的角色, 今天便帖"門當戶對"一文, 再作討論.

nobody282

美國某的偏遠地區，住咗一班摩門教基本教義信徒，奉行一夫多妻。啲年輕男仔，進入青春期, 成日同老豆、叔伯爭女。結果係，多數男仔十五六才就要離家出走。啲女就十三四才比老母(佢地係三十未到！）嫁出去。