有無師兄真係喜歡／愛上酒店女女，最後真係有拍施在一起

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女女係酒店認識架,識左幾耐,你當幾個月吧,係香港見面時都有俾佢知我對佢有意思,佢都暗示過對我有d好感,之後佢返去我地一齊qq同sms聯絡,我知佢勁多客qq同sms佢上去搵佢,之後慢慢一齊左,你可以唔信,我上次搵佢時2個人真係拍拖咁,咩都無做總之當中好多野都唔知點講,你可以串我,人長水遠使咁多錢上去食餐飯?係....事實就係咁,佢提過個個返去搵佢都係要搞佢,所以我真係唔想佢覺得其所有人都係咁....同佢出來佢坐幾百蚊的士,我知道左諗住俾,佢打死都唔願意....唉,其實有時唔係我有負佢或者佢有負我,而係o係呢d地方認識,問題真係好多...我明白點解9成9都好難一齊,因為唔係唔愛對方,就係反而愛對方先死...你玩,一次性咩都得,到真係想做情侶,女仔其實好介意另一邊知道自己出來做過,我個時又哄又發矛俾佢知佢先敢試下一齊,佢好怕以後生活嘈交個陣會俾人攞返出來講,你咩出身你"x"來架咋...佢自己都話心入面知道我永遠都唔會咁講,但都係會怕,而且文化圈差別同生活距離,我地拍一次拖都幾大件事,我由香港上去,佢由佢度坐的士出來,幾百幾百咁,當然你話好小但拍一次拖交通費幾百,你拍成年都唔係細數,同埋真係一齊年齡又係問題....點都好真係好多野要面對....我都努力緊...btw如果個女仔唔急用錢其實錢反而唔係最重要問題...個人感覺姐~我識另一個女女都沈緊個ching,情況同我都d似,其實女女都係人,都有感情,係話同客人發生真感情,其實好正常同合理,你願意接受佢,佢又願意信任你有時就係咁簡單,但呢種情況真係好小好小,同埋要好搞清楚佢對你有冇感情,其實細心諗就會好易知,姐係佢呃你其實你好容易知道,只係你接唔接受到事實會唔會呃自己姐....講得好差唔好介意

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plankola 發表於 2011-9-15 02:11

                               
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其實我同另一酒店女女關系算都好好，佢都對我真係好好，佢都唔想用我D錢，但就真係未諗到真係同佢結婚。 ...

你地一齊了....?同埋佢生活問題應付到嗎?

plankola

吊山 發表於 2011-9-15 08:40

                               
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你地一齊了....?同埋佢生活問題應付到嗎?

你指邊個？如果係講本題，打算月底或下月初一齊住！
師兄祝福你，其實同邊個一齊都有問題要處理，是多或大還是少/小，其實我覺得女女對你真係幾好，好難得唔要你錢，不管將來結不結，起碼大家現在開心珍惜一齊時光就夠，有什麼強求？我信你無搞佢，都好欣賞你！
介意問係唔係深圳？還是其它地方！講笑，深圳的話第時相約四個見面！哈！

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Thanks for all the encouragements. There are a number of key ingredients about sinking that I wanted to share.

1.  We are always one of their clients, that is a fact.  But does that matter anyway?  

2.  Sinking has always been a unilateral process.  So don’t ask about if the feeling is real from her, that is irrelevant.  You can only ask whether you own feeling is real!  Even that I am not sure if one always has an unequivocal answer.

3.  Divers get confused and frustrated because they think too much ahead. Remember that there is no long-term future for either of you; you only live for the day.

4.  Many CHING tend to think that they are more mature and they can help the girl to have their real feeling resurrected.  I have already shared my story.  The fact is that girls have a deep down compartment in their emotional burden, which they won’t reveal to anyone easily, certainly not to their clients.  Don’t think that you have the talent to hold the key to unlock that secret.  Even if you do, can you handle the truth, which can be brutal and ruthless?

5.  You jump I jump mentality.  One doesn’t want to sink alone.  But this diving process is always lonely and one should not have any diving buddy.  Don’t drag the girl to sink with you.  If she does, you will end up in much deeper shit!   

6.  In the sinking process, there is not such a thing that who gets hurt more.  The worst that can happen to us is that we are drowned, but not dead.  We can recover one day and falls back to own heaven, such as being one of the three expert professionals in the region.  What about her, after getting hurt, should she aim at becoming the most popular HG in TST again?  Get real, if we cannot stand the heat, don’t stay in the kitchen.  We are the one who initiated the sinking process, so we should bear all the burdens.  Girls are innocent and the last thing we want is to hurt them.

The bottom line is that we should not be sinking to begin with.  But in the eventuality that we sunk, try to be a responsible diver with manner.  Don’t blame anyone and enjoy the sinking process as long as you can.  Always keep a BCD (buoyancy controlling device) handy so that you would not get drowned deep down.  Also, one last word,  when you float, don’t do that in a rush.  Just like in real diving, that could be disastrous to you and your partner.  Start floating one increment at a time.  

Good luck to all who sunk!!

plankola

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Thanks for all the encouragements. There are a number of key ingredients about ...

a very good mind of logic, C hing, hope to met you if hav chance

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不要沉洛去

Oddpeople

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不要沉洛去,多數沒結果

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不要沉洛去,多數沒結果

謝！我再睇清楚這個月她表演，如仍然不如理想，可能會退！

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I am sure our paths will cross someday; perhaps in one of the hotel lobbies one day!

Good luck!

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"我不介意，我自已都找過很多酒店女，我有資格介意？
過去就過去，也不介意
我應該唔會
從來沒亂諗過"
good ching,

dswhkg

plankola 發表於 2011-9-15 23:57

                               
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謝！我再睇清楚這個月她表演，如仍然不如理想，可能會退！

Just see this thread, seems you already become logical and have idea on what to do next.

You open a post here to ask that question, 99% of the replies should be negative, no matter from just guessing or from the factual statistic.
Because most of the girls are working for money. you knew that already, but you though that you may be the 1% lucky men.

Nobody know but you know are you the 1% lucky men. You don't know if she love you? I don't think so! You must know! Just willing to accept the conclusion or not.

In a normal process:
Know each other --> mutual understanding --> Chemistry/Sure the love --> Commit --> Very close relationship --> Marriage

In your case, you are not going through this process, but seem this process:
Sex --> honey moon --> Chemistry(one way?) --> mutual understanding --> Very close relationship --> Commit? --> Marriage

"最大問題只有兩個：
她是否真心，並且是真的愛我。
第二：她的性格跟我及能否合得來，或者我能否就她。"

Yes, you know very clearly now.
But one very important step is the COMMITMENT! Seems not reach this step yet. (of course, should not be a blindly commitment. You have to understand her and decide commit or not)
She committed with you? You have enough commitment to her? I doubt
You totally love her, including her drawbacks? will do everything to increase the relationship?  U don't mind her history, accept her 小姐脾氣, no doubt on her 動機 ....
Especially your case, you need a greater commitment so as to overcome some inborn negative factor (her history, etc)

note: about 小姐脾氣, many girls have this problem. And they only show this temper to the one who they trust. Can you endure this? haha female are illogical animal, emotional animal,... you have to suffer for the rest of your whole life

i-amfine

While I accept that everything is possible, don't underestimate the difficulty in the process and don't expect too much.  Just enjoy the moment.

kk15917

有無結埋婚架 x2

boyboy100

沉左?
佢年中同幾多人扑過; 條數你識計架啦, 可?
正正經經搞過好女仔把啦

plankola

dswhkg 發表於 2011-9-16 10:33

                               
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Just see this thread, seems you already become logical and have idea on what to do next.

You open ...

yes almost 80% not 99% negative, but at least I'm quite happy staying with her, n up to this moment she ask for not very much money or not much spending on her.

of course I know eventually getting nothing, but life is a process just enjoy it enjoy what when you are standing / staying.
I will go n see then

plankola

kk15917 發表於 2011-9-16 10:41

                               
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有無結埋婚架 x2

你無睇上文下理？邊有甘快！

plankola

boyboy100 發表於 2011-9-16 11:11

                               
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沉左?
佢年中同幾多人扑過; 條數你識計架啦, 可?
正正經經搞過好女仔把啦 ...

乜你甘講野，尊重下女女好！

boyboy100

plankola 發表於 2011-9-16 12:08

                               
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乜你甘講野，尊重下女女好！

唔係唔尊重, 我都係有個句講個句.因為你依家當局者迷;
當熱情過左之後, 你心入面條刺會越黎越深; 對佢既疑心同樣地越黎越重.

吊山

boyboy100 發表於 2011-9-16 11:11

                               
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沉左?
佢年中同幾多人扑過; 條數你識計架啦, 可?
正正經經搞過好女仔把啦 ...

嗯...的確要看你自己接唔接受到,不過每個人都有過去,正經女仔係心理上好似好d....當然我明白ching意思....

吊山

boyboy100 發表於 2011-9-16 17:45

                               
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唔係唔尊重, 我都係有個句講個句.因為你依家當局者迷;
當熱情過左之後, 你心入面條刺會越黎越深; 對佢既 ...

嗯...呢個我都明白,嗯...看大家相處吧,其實接受佢個刻呢d問題就預左大家都傾過...