In the past when I posted in the forums it is always about the Macau show (you can easily see what I posted before) and sometimes I got nailed. But I do believe a lot of the C-hings are very kind and will support all of us 沉船既兄弟.
I just called up a friend overseas who is going through the same painful experience and got both of us sobbing. (the friend is a she).
We both told each other to be strong, but we both cannot do it.
At least we will try to support each other by talking to each other.
(I am very sorry to her actually - I seem to have a way to bring bad luck to people whom I know well. Even though I no longer work at the company that my friend is working at she still seems to get the bad luck from me. ..... )
And I actually know if the relationship is not there, so be it (because, ultimately, she is Japanese and I am hongkie - if does not work out, it is understandable). That's why I keep thinking even though we cannot be together, we can still be friends.
And frankly I did previously have another experience, and I and the other girl are still good friends. So I think it is possible. (but not this case, that's why I feel so painful)
I just called up a friend overseas who is going through the same painful experience and got both of us sobbing. (the friend is a she).
We both told each other to be strong, but we both cannot do it.
At least we will try to support each other by talking to each other.
(I am very sorry to her actually - I seem to have a way to bring bad luck to people whom I know well. Even though I no longer work at the company that my friend is working at she still seems to get the bad luck from me. ..... )
Yes I understand and appreciate your support. As I said I am very very willing to let her have her own life. Afterall, we live in two different countries and such a relationship, if it ever has existed (not), will be difficult or impossible to maintain. I can let her go and wish her all the best with plain heart. But I feel so painful because of her not even wanting to maintain a friendship.
C-hing you are right. May be she keeps thinking that by being "friends" I am just trying to buy time. But it is impossible to explain to her this is not the case as she is uncontactable.
PS: the other "she" I mentioned that I called overseas is not the "she" that caused me sink boat. She is just a good friend and ex-colleague of mine. We kept in touch to chat about rumors of my ex-company. But she just parted with her fiancee and she emailed me, and I told her I am as screwed as she is. And now we try to support each other. Please do not mistaken.
And I actually know if the relationship is not there, so be it (because, ultimately, she is Japanese and I am hongkie - if does not work out, it is understandable). That's why I keep thinking even though we cannot be together, we can still be friends.
And frankly I did previously have another experience, and I and the other girl are still good friends. So I think it is possible. (but not this case, that's why I feel so painful)
it is important to be aware that we came from different world. men pays to seek thrill and enjoyment. those ladies work there to seek money for a living. it is just way too different. and doom to have poor and sad endings...
原帖由 tyreal 於 2008-11-11 11:58 AM 發表
it is important to be aware that we came from different world. men pays to seek thrill and enjoyment. those ladies work there to seek money for a living. it is just way too different. and doom to have ...
Yeah you are right. It is not just "sad and poor endings" but painful ending.
樓主: lich13
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發表於 2008-11-10 21:59:54
...師兄.....當你們之間的愛情走了.....一廂情願式的愛.....便是她的負擔....如果你是真正的愛她.....你更加要快點走出來....不要再成為她的負擔.....讓她走她自己選擇的路....祝她幸福....... ... 
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發表於 2008-11-10 23:04:37
