Sometimes, the 鳳 will seek out "chicken" instead of 凰.
I think sometimes we should learn more about body language. If you can read that well, maybe the women is giving out subconscious hint that will encourage the men more.
e.g. sitting next to you with closer than normal distance
the way she looks at you
the degree of care from the woman towards you
I am old-fashioned. I like subtle hinting from woman, rather than woman who is so open that you feel being chased by her.